Abusive relationships can be a two-way street. The fashion today is to blame men for all the woes women face in their daily lives. As a man I can readily admit we are guilty of more than a few transgressions against women but (and it’s a HUGE but) women are also culpable.
The title of the video is How Women Destroy Love. I would change the title to How Women [can] Destroy Love—because, frankly, not all women do. Men are simple creatures at heart and can be easily manipulated by a savvy woman. However, simple should not automatically imply stupid.
Man-bashing has almost reached the level of sport in the USA and other (so-called) progressive countries. Men have earned some this blowback but there is more than enough blame to go around. As traditional gender roles breakdown both women and men are looking for new ways to define themselves.
I am out of the relationship business. For good. How men and women treat each other today (generally speaking) is appalling. Especially in socially enlightened (tongue-in-cheek) countries like the USA. The gender wars have raged since the 1970s and I am a wounded veteran of those wars. Enough is enough. I surrendered and fled the battlefield. I am once again a traditional male (with all his warts) and am revelling in rediscovering my maleness. I know who I am.
I no longer seek the approval of women (or a woman). I will continue to respect women, treat them with politeness and consideration. Make no mistake about it, I think abusive men are thugs and I will never condone their behaviour. But not all men are thugs (and never were). I will share with you that in my world travels over the past six years I have found well-educated, sophisticated, independent women who maintain their dignity without sacrificing their femininity—they are not from the USA.
If you’re a woman you can dismiss this video out of hand along with the author of this post (me). There is a case to be made that I am an irrelevant dinosaur who has nothing worthwhile to say. But I would suggest that I didn’t create the content of this video—it was created by a woman for women. I find her comments to be spot-on (maybe because they match what I’ve observed). I know successful couples but they are few in number. I find that sad. Like I said earlier, I am out of the relationship business. It’s now up to you. Good luck.