No Moral Superiority When You Compromise Your Integrity

Stephen F. Dennstedt

How can you claim moral superiority when you compromise your integrity? Simple answer is you can’t. You cannot have it both ways. I hate hypocrisy—I especially hate hypocrisy in myself. When I see it in others (and in me) I call it out for what it is—hypocrisy is a lack of character pure and simple.

Any cursory review of current events will make my case. Religious leaders preaching and practising bigotry, racism and hate in the name Jesus. Closet Gays publicly denouncing homosexuality and then engaging in those very same behaviours behind closed doors. Pedophiles who abuse our public trust.

Men of God, teachers, politicians, doctors and even family members who prey upon our children. We’ve had a plethora of examples lately—say one thing and do another. The latest manifestation of this hypocrisy comes in the guise of calling out the male sexual predators in our midst. I have no problem with bringing these deviants to justice (moral or judicial) but I do have a real problem with the victim game as it’s currently being played.

The Johnny-come-lately bandwagon approach to victim-hood sickens me. The minute a victim takes a financial bribe to keep their mouth shut they stop being a victim in my book and become, instead, a co-conspirator. I personally think Harvey Weinstein and Matt Lauer are pigs (as well as many others now being mentioned) and I in no way condone their behaviour in any way, shape or form. However, when so-called victims come out decades later professing their concern for other women I balk. But Steve that’s blaming the victim and that’s not politically correct.

Yes, in some (many) cases I am blaming the victim. When a person accepts a payoff (financial or career consideration) they are not concerned with future victims. I am not talking about a person who is genuinely afraid of physical or public retribution, I am talking about a person who trades their integrity for financial gain. Justify it anyway you like it is still hypocritical and wrong. The latest case is a Matt Lauer accuser—she had a consensual adulterous relationship with a married man and now claims victimization 16 years later. By her own admission she acknowledges complete culpability.

But now she wants to play the fame game—making the rounds of the morning talk shows to claim #MeToo. Seriously? I just don’t buy it for a second. What she is actually doing is undermining the credibility of the real victims who have possibly been traumatized for life. I perceive no concern for others just a preoccupation with self. A true concern for others would have required a call to action at the time of the incident not 16 years later. And I’m sorry—but when a victim takes hundreds of thousands and even millions of dollars in hush money they no longer hold the moral high ground.

When you compromise your integrity and sacrifice your moral superiority on the altar of greed you are a hypocrite. You cannot have it both ways. And while I’m at it let me also say that when a woman falsely accuses a man of rape or child molestation, and it’s proven false in a court of law, that woman should be prosecuted (in the name of equality) to the full extent of the law. Because, unlike a woman, a man is presumed guilty until proven innocent in those cases. Women teachers having sexual relations with underaged boys also receive much lighter jail terms than male teachers doing the same thing.

If you read this post carefully (and correctly) you will see that I am not really blaming the victims in our society. I am, however, blaming those who profit from their victim-hood—real or imagined. Calling out the predators in our society and bringing them to justice is an important and worthwhile thing to do. To cash in on their victimization, at the expense of others, is dishonest and hypocritical and undermines the credibility of the process. I can appreciate and understand real fear, I cannot understand monetizing victimization for personal profit.

You may agree with me or you may choose to disagree with me—your call. You might choose to unfriend me on Facebook or unsubscribe from this blog—again your call. I’m too old to succumb to political correctness, I call them like I see them. Real victims coming forth to expose the predators in our midst is a good thing, the Johnny-come-latelys looking for their fifteen minutes of fame don’t impress me at all. It’s popular to be a victim these days as the #MeToo hashtag demonstrates but I think it has the potential of hurting rather that furthering the cause. Just my opinion.

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